Wilhelm Reich, psychoanalyst and student of heretic Freud had discovered the function of orgasm and sexuality in relation to the meeting deep tra due persone capace di generare una potente energia che trascende l’individuo stesso – l’orgasmo – come parte di una energia più grande all’interno di un progetto d’amore più grande: l’energia cosmica. C.G. Jung definiva sentimento “ciò che ha valore per noi”.
Viviamo nella società del benessere in cui tutto sembra convergere verso il piacere, ma stranamente, invece, aumentano il disagio, l’insoddisfazione, i disturbi psicosomatici. E’ possibile che si stia confondendo il piacere con il desiderio e con la gioia di vivere? Molte persone dedite al piacere diventano dipendenti dal piacere stesso: vale for sex, food, music, readings, love, friendships, trash television, the Mc Donald's. There is a St. Patrick's well that never fills up! To experience the fullness is not that we must learn first to create a vacuum within us? The joy of living and the desire to have other means, another culture, perhaps we are losing?
Early Summer. A myriad of colorful and glossy magazines with alluring covers rush to publicize the pleasure of the holidays, largely propinano expert advice on everything from magical places, clothing, health, sports equipment, cosmetic products, other, more specialized , deal with problems and crises couples, the risk of holidays compared to the stability of family menage, all seasoned with advertising to be extremely captivating images of well-honed body blows to the gym, depilatory creams, diets hasty and jogging, the magic formula of "buy two and get one! "fashionable suit, headphones in ears and maybe a book to read range, but do not leave empty spaces inside and outside themselves, perhaps under a scorching hot and humid already early in the morning. At
holiday wonders of all, the redemption by the newspaper, the sex or langue is never enough, and the pursuit of great love, the emotion at all costs, the adventure that inspires the imagination lost in years of good fellowship while double; the silent erotic fantasies of wife-mother who finds herself a woman, after years of dedication and care for the family, in search of his lost identity, individuality, desires and dreams are often left to the pole with the pressure of age couples exhausted, filled with ill-concealed hostility that so desperate to get hurt by not being able ever to part with anything, experiencing an armistice between continuous and exhausting compromise.
The woman so-called "career" at times with his son "disturbed" that are often hyperactive, which is never lacking anything (except the presence of his mother ...). Among these stands out that often, ultimately behind the alibi of the Equal Opportunities or Old-fashioned feminism, is uncomfortable with the men and the conquest of power, whether political, seems to become the key goal of giving life to the soul. And the woman who gives up the soul loses its essence as a woman.
attraction and charm are often carried by strange emotions: fascination of power, competition, challenge, prestige models and cultural schemes.
falling in love is a huge source of experience and knowledge: experience is the possibility of living with an energy dimension above us, that you can not control but you can experiment with joy il flusso, la confluenza, diventando cedevoli senza la paura di perdersi. L’orgasmo stesso è qualcosa che avviene quando ci concediamo la possibilità di mollarci all’altro con amore e fiducia perché questo crea quel paradosso-miracolo di riprendersi la propria identità perdendo quel proprio controllo a cui siamo abituati ad affidare la nostra vita, le nostre certezze.
L’attacco di panico viene ad insegnarci che la nostra vita si sta appiattendo, stiamo spegnendo la gioia ed il piacere della nostra creatività ed allora il panico sembra comportarsi come un orgasmo sostitutivo che in pochi attimi ci sbalza da tutte le certezze esistenziali che abbiamo costruito su una identità che non ci appartiene o non ci appartiene more. Is to propose anew the desire, the pleasure to meet the uncertain flow of life that leads to the discovery, the unknown, the meeting. Vinicius De Moraes, Brazilian poet, in an interview many years ago, said: "Life is the art of meeting."
Falling in love seems a little limestone the same scenarios of the Depression: the other is the one that seems somehow lead to a disruption of the "software" brain often works as a kind of program "default" or, if you want remain in the computer metaphor, the "default". Falling in love as a swollen river breaks boundaries, its banks and swept away rust and mental habits and selfish we launch explosively to life by cleaning and detoxifying the brain and releasing a purifying sexuality: all of a sudden we become brave and generous, kind and strong ...
We fear the void, really. We need to fill in everything, even garbage, we must always be engaged, the mind always full of thoughts, duties and projects. Women often have the urge of having to always feel "right" without ever giving a moment of weakness: that's nice to see people who are embarrassed or blush again.
All this has to do with another issue: the structure and origin of a relationship. Usually couples are based on the "Need" (sometimes to become a real Tour Mutual Aid). Not many of those based on "Desire." You can not build a marriage, a couple, on projects exclusively rational. The couple founded on the need not live but can be arranged, usually plan everything: work, leisure, weekends, holidays. On holiday, in general, is never on vacation because it repeats the routine in a scheme in which the unexpected is banned, wonder, anxiety building, the discovery of new, desire, sexuality. The excuse is always the same - the child care - and a constant halo of duties unaware that characterizes the newspaper.
science, now tells us some time: The brain feeds on change, curiosity of surprises, unknown territory, to live life as an adventure! A note Battisti song repeated the refrain "It's not an adventure," as if defining adventure that adventurous feeling of being in love would have diminished the value if it had not immediately been given a connotation of eternity: how many times you choke a beautiful thing that is emerging because "it must be for life" already now! Instead, the game is serious, the discovery, wonder, excitement, surprise, the joy of living, adventure, the inconsistency ... in short, everything that in life, the life we \u200b\u200bshould never stop saying thank you.
Nature makes us think, warns us: a tidal wave sweeps away everything in minutes what we have, from houses with expensive things and projects. The only thing that matters in the end for those who survived - and we have heard from their own voice! - Is the miracle of being alive.
a great sage said, the greatest gift we have - and often are not aware - the largest daily miracle that we repeat every day is "to be alive." Who goes into this emotion can also be prepared to give his life for others, respect and everything else that is different from oneself, but does not want to change the other accepts and respects it, or do not like you leave fascinated by wars, violence, hatred and racism.
photo: Pino Tartaglia
Franco Spinelli Photographer 
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